You just need to find the right balance between your needs and your spouses needs. A midlife crisis is characterized by an individuals transition from adolescence to adulthood, as well as an uncomfortable period in which they may exhibit detached and impulsive behaviors and thoughts. By the mid-1990s this had increased to 11%, 25% and 38%, respectively. And if there is anyone citing a number, I'd be a bit skeptical about the accuracy of it. It is also important to realize that your spouses mid-life crisis is absolutely not your fault.