And the sister projected her crappy life onto her younger sister because she was unhappy. Although his first name is not known publicly, Angelas husband is a member of the Tomanka ethnic group and works as a marketing product manager. Some 86 graduate girls felt ridiculed and belittled by them as well as I did and others. But I heard both sides on Kirsten, some say she was a hugging person who liked everyone, like in the Interview of a friend of hers mom said she was a loveable Puppy. Even if Kirsten was stuck up and a Bully! Why are you contradicting yourself? Ive been suicidal just from being bullied. We are simple people. Kirsten was a cute sweet looking little thing. Maybe she did something to make it bad. I know this because I was there in the same class of Kirsten and Bernadette. She had an issue, and if what Kirstens friends say are right about her and being so bold to outspoken maybe she recognized that the girl wasnt wrapped too tight but being young didnt know the term, hence calling her weird. Most teen girls are smart alecky and mean. I have always treated others the way I want to be treated. For murder! Angela Delvecchio. I think she confessed to Kirsten how she loved her and wanted to be her and it freaked Kirsten out. So Kirsten was a Bully, no right to Justify Bernadettes actions. Like I said, Kirsten was so much fun. Even though she sadly didnt live to see it. Its unknown what happened to Peter Costas (Kirstens younger brother). Paris Mahone, did you even know Kirsten? With this Virus, and now George Floyd, ( and the Riotings all over) Im deeply surprised people still are discussing Bernadette Protti on here, and other sites. I dont believe Kirsten was a Bully. Kirsten didnt really Bully Bernadette, some of the other girls there did Bully her a little. She also had nice clothes, her problem was with Kirsten, that Kirsten was reaching the top, where Bernadette wanted to reach the top. She is evil and a Monster (with a very dark Soul). As for Bernadette, do I believe she was a nice girl, yes I believe she was, but she became overly jealous that led her to rage and murder. Angela is shown to wear a white shirt, a blue vest and a blue skirt with brown hair. Well one mother of her friend on a blog told Kirsten was Exclusive and liked everyone. I been bullied to. Its always so sad when a murder happens to anyone especially a young girl who has her whole life ahead of her. Kirsten was full of energy and life. Kirsten was a straight A student and involved in activities, she wanted to run with top kids. Kirsten probaly spotted she wasnt all there and was going to out her on it. Also, Im flattered by the attention you gave me on the blog. Karen, everyone reading your comments sees you as the odious one. We all had enemies and faults and all teen girls are Caddy and mean at some point, no reason to die, they outgrow it in adulthood, most do anyways, some never do. Thats how she probably got associated with not liking people who didnt fit in. In another one of your comments your wrote Well said Sarah. Dont matter if the girl bullied her. Being disgusted that the murderer allowed two innocent girls to be accused of the murder? In the movie, she's well into her junior year of high school before someone catches on that she did it. You are full of it. So classy and dead on. Im sure you were a big Smart Aleck. If Kirsten was going to out Bernadette, she would of told Alex Arnold all about her, and the Conversation. I hear a lot of them still get together on Occasions, and others have moved on. I just dont understand cant people just be happy with what god has made them. Some are quick, rich, own the finest and the most expensive of anything. Yes the Homecoming Queen said nice things about Kirsten, but she was at the (top) and Kirsten liked those people. Then she got out. To begin life anew without the stigma of murderer attached to her, the parolee legally changed her name to Jeannette Butler and moved from California to Oklahoma and became a nurse. I am almost certain she and Bernadette had words its Obvious, but Kirsten got in the Car with her, Kirsten didnt have anything against Bernadette, Bernadette took it way to Personal till it became Personal and (fatal). Bernadette was a Snob also, she only wanted to hang with the incrowd, if you were nothing she didnt talk to you anymore than she had to. Rupaul and Sarah, Bernadette has friends and fit in. That dont make her a terrible person cause she hand probaly only a handful she did t like. Im sure she does, look at her life, and where shes been, and how the media harasses her, not saying she dont deserve it, which she does, but if she is sick, then leave her alone. But for the most part Kirsten got along with mostly everyone. So she is a Horrible girl. I personally beleive Kirsten could be a smart aleck to those she didnt like, but remember most teenage girls are. I guess that makes their daughter better than anybody elses. There was no teasing and ostracisation. still no right to murder anyone. Join Facebook to connect with Angela Delvecchio-Hall and others you may know. Joe Kosla, where are you? She could be mean, in fact, I could see her getting mean before I could see Kirsten. 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I believe she made a clumsy pass at Kirsten, or said something weird, and Kirsten got all freaked. Joe she must of liked your Sister. Leave a review . Art and Berit were Wonderful people. Teen girls are all like Kirsten was described, dont see how she was worse than any other teen girl around. Angela Delvecchio Death Of A Cheerleader The Real Angela Delvecchio Photo Portrayed in the movie death of a cheerleader Bernadette Protti, her 1984 murder victim, Kirsten Costas.The Angela Delvecchio role played by kelli martin, is actually the complete oppisite of Bernadette Protti. 322 Main St Cadillac Family Practice, Bar Harbor, ME 04609-1637. The knife was her sisters for making lunch it was even in the movie that way. So some of them will say Orinda had snobs. I dont care what anyone says to another person, it does not give you the right to kill them. There are more murders in american continent than in Europe and its not in the time of war. I was even accused of being (Stuck up) We were all just Misunderstood. She could of been real nice and friendly. John even if Kirsten was as mean as Tori Spelling (which BTW she wasnt) that is still no right to Murder her. Man you all just know Kirsten a small World. Is it respectful to suggest that Kirstens parents should have raised her better and that they are to blame for her murder? The day after the murder in June 1984, rumors had already spread at the tennis courts, down oak-shaded lanes and at poolside. They might not win but they can make a case for smearing the name of their daughter if indeed she was not a bully. Youre not now Bullying a dead girl, makes you worse than her, you will be the one to Answer for it, not her, she already has, Bernadette sure isnt any Angel shes a Cold Blooded Killer, dont care what her reasons are, she is the Bully, and Kirsten is the Victim. The father was so ignorant and submerged in his cars he didnt even notice his daughters pain and problems. They still do Bernadette and always will, so she has to look over her head every second. To anyone that wishes to support Kirstens memory, and believes Kirsten didnt deserve what happened to her, please have a look at, and join her Facebook Memorial Page. So I would say to any bully, we all have our weaknesses, Kirsten she liked everyone, she wasnt any bully by any means, she was so cute and funny. Every School has kids people dont like! Paris Mahone did you know Kirsten? Your point is irrelevant and has absolutely nothing to do with the case. You want to defend your friend and so you should but once you start calling names and trampling over the comments of others you single yourself out as a bully. Angela was just 23 years old when she was finally freed from prison in the year 1992. The sad thing is that adults act the same way. If not, I doubt she worries about the past. I think Kristen called Bernadette out on being a lesbian. Bernadette had jealousy issues. The day after the murder in June 1984, rumors had already spread at the tennis courts, down oak-shaded lanes and at poolside. It was to Personal. As I said, its possible Bernadette snapped and found the knife by chance; but if she hadnt of been so aggressive towards Kirsten to be her friend, she wouldnt of needed that knife. And if Kirsten was so bad and such a bully why did Bernadette want to be friends with her so badly? She cared about people and if she thought she hurt someones feelings she would try and talk to them, we all make mistakes. Was Kirsten a smart aleck , dont know but tell me a teen girl who isnt! The girl who said Missy Availa was the meanest girl she ever knew and was her Worst Bulky, youre no better, let the dead rest. Even her childhood BFF cant forgive her for such a Horrible Act, if it was drugs or Alcohol she was I. Are you suggesting by your comment Kirsten had is well deserved that Kirsten deserved to be murdered because she understandably didnt take kindly to being lured out of her house under false pretences to a bobbie (sorority) dinner that didnt exist by someone she wasnt friends or even acquaintances with and was then driven to an empty car-park at night. I dont think she was, just a teen girl who was like the rest in competition. Apparently the owner of the other blogs havent gave up, just busy. But I do know that two families had to move out of town because the girls wore all black and kept to them selves.. The Costas family is doing well and went on with life. This is what makes her an easy choice every single time. Material on this site is provided for education, criticism, commentary, cultural reporting, entertainment, historical reference, and news reporting/analysis. YOU NEED TO LEAVE BERNADETTE TO GOD, AND YOUR NOT HIM. The most obviously jealous studentor the quiet good girl no one would ever suspect? I live minutes from Columbine Highschool and you have absolutely no clue. No more Bernadette has a point. Bernadette could be to at times She was no Angel some thought of her as Stuck up(Bernadette that is) and her BFF was kind of popular, but not as popular and Bernadette, Stacy, Diane, Jessica and Carrie. She should of told the truth and met Kirsten at the house and talked there with her parents present. I could call you out but I wont. Shame on you Bernadette what you did was morose, and against your entire religion and you stabbed Kirsten to death. Youre going off a moviea fictionalized account. Kirsten was adorable. It'snot too hard to believe that the "it" actors in young Hollywood - especially those who worked the TV movie-of-the-week circuit - were friendly or had been co-workers previously. She dont go hardly anywhere anymore. Kirsten was gorgeous! Bernadette would have seen the pain and anguish on Kirstens face, the fear and shock in Kirstens eyes, listened to Kirsten scream in agony (she was reported to have screamed) as she felt the knife rip through Kirsten skin. Bernadette Protti was the one who put an end to the life of Kirsten Marina Costas, an American high school student who was born on July 23, 1968 and died on June 23, 1984. Why cant people leave this case alone. Its sad, thats the biggest problem in this world? Theres no excuse for murder. Stuck up she was, no Bully. [4], On June 23, 1984, Costas was lured with a phony invitation to a dinner for the Bob-o-Links, a sorority-like group at school. But I will feel honored at the same timebut I still would have been weirded out. The main point so many of you are missing is a beautiful young girl lost her life! We arent all made to be popular. Girls in Jr high and high School can be Brutal. I clearly remember hearing about the shocking murder a frightening mystery that colored every day and night in Orinda until an arrest was made. She refused to. It was a fictional depiction loosely based on Kirsten and Bernadette. Not a plaine jane.get real. I also think that its utterly ridiculous that she got only 9 years for committing murder. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. I didnt kill anyone, I went to college, had a successful career, a loving family and am happily retired with my husband who I met right after I graduated college in 1983. Bernadette shoukd of just acknowledged Kirsten was around and spoke Civil to her, without forging the friendship. She did have the cutest clothes of all time and knew it. But we didnt care because our parents raised us not to be needy of anyones friend ship. Others are not so lucky. Map and Directions. I didnt know Kirsten very well. . Bernadette rang Kirstens mother to invite Kirsten to a non existent sorority dinner. Bernie has a sweet melancholy. Asking a butt of yourself getting it. Her friends were all Pretty. Bernadette will never escape her Image of what people have of her, no matter how Nice she becomes. No one have to take the greatest gift God gives,LIFE. Alexander and Mary Jane Arnold, who live in Moraga, had been playing cribbage with neighbors. A popular and pretty cheerleader, Kirsten Costas, was dead, and sheriff's deputies were searching for the girl who stabbed her. i remember always thinking that Bs case would had been much different today. She wasnt mean or that just high maintenance. Kirsten wasnt a bully. She didnt Bully Bernadette, Just was irritated cause she lied to her, and her mom about the Party, and all. And anyone messed with one of us they had to take on all of us. You named all of Kirstens friends. It just became a War between the 2 which one was better, and Kirsten was, and Bernadette wanted to be, and Kirsten was in her way. It wasnt about jealousy, the blond girl has a mental disorder. So yes it sucks to be bullied, but that is no excuse for any kind of physical action. One girl said stupid stuff that embarrassed you, and cussed all the time, and other girls who smoked or cussed, she didnt associate with them, she didnt want around them. Believe me it was a 6 month witch hunt. Former Front Desk Associate at Planet Fitness. That Mats Chick dont know her head from her Butt. She as I said, didnt want to be bothered with stupid acting people. If someone from Orinda ran into her, especially one of Kirstens friends, they would probably spit at her. So she was a Bully, she is not here to defend herself any longer, so youre the Bully now. They made that clear and so did she Every single day. Defining Feature: Klutzy, younger sister of Tony who is also an Italian mobster stereotype. Good luck dear. I know. Now that you know, have fun looking around! This Virus is killing all the World over, esp. Completely agree with you Midwest Jimmy. By education I mean an all-round drawing out of the best in the child and man; body, mind and spirit. ~ Mahatma Gandhi. She didnt like their ways mostly. Kirsten was just like any other girl who had to go to that snobby school. I do believe she called Bernadette weird and threatened to expose her weirdness. Kristen had it well deserved in response to someone else, which suggests that you think her cruel murder was justified. She didnt hate anyone. I know there were Bogus postings from Kirstens classmates. Neither does a lot of former classmates. I still have nightmares of many girlfriends ignoring me, making fun of me and being just vicious. After the death of her rival, Angela seems to blossom. And Sarah saying Kirsten got what she deserved. 400 North Ingalls Building. On the day of the event, Protti lied to Costas about having a party at her house in order to get him to leave her residence. Cause Bern for weeks went on and on about Kirsten to where her friends kept getting tired of hearing it. Well to a degree maybe, but Bernadette stalked her and longed fro a friendship. Protti changed her name to Jeannette Butler legally after the horrible incident. Executive Director @ Non-Profit Agency. Mira note ran a lot of girls out from what I read. Sensing something fishy, Kirsten escaped from the car, but Protti followed her home and attacked her there with a kitchen knife. Is it respectful to write in another comment that Kirsten had it well deserved, which suggests that you think Kirstens murder was justified? I think both girls were good girls, and I think one just got frustrated over a fake invitation, and I do believe Bernadette made a (butt) of herself to Kirsten, and it was all Kirsten could take. When Angela cleans off the knife with which she stabbed Stacy, she does so by running it under water and wiping it with a towel, leaving both her and Stacy's DNA all over it, the towel and in the drain. I am merely reading the comments after viewing the movie and indeed if the movie mischaracterized Bernadette then her parents should sue them. The girls quarreled and Costas fled to the home of Alex and Mary Jane Arnold, telling them that her friend had gone "weird. The movie hinted at Bernadette being gay but only a hint. Bern want the poor girl Deployed in the movie. Or someone who stares at you constantly, you got a problem doing that. It was on the Murder still haunts Moraga Residents. The alternate title for this psychological thriller is Death of a Cheerleader (which is, perhaps, more to the point and more of a draw for those viewers still bitter because they never made the squad). Her house was nice to,(as nice as Kirstens) so she wasnt a lonely poor girl who struggled for friends. She is still remembered for her heinous crime- murdering a young girl named Kirsten Marina Costas in 1984. I knew nothing about this story until I saw it on lifetime and I actually felt really sorry for Kelly Martin who portrayed Bernadette protti. Kirsten is the true victim in this case. She never meant harm, as for Bernadette, Kirsten sometimes teased her, and she would be nice to her to, she just was angry for being lured out under false pretense to attend a so called party, and when Bernadette told her feeling about Kirsten, it freaked her out, she spotted something immediately, and she was right. Bernadette Protti, a fellow student at Miramonte High School in California, was the one who took the life of Kirsten Costas in 1984. Even if her friend was bullying dont give right to take life. A couple of them did, Bern just looked the other way. We werent in the same grade I was one year ahead of her she acted as if she was better. I think she had a crush on Kirsten and was terrified of Kirsten telling everyone she was a lesbian. This is Berns BFF or her Sister or Bern herself, no one else would go to such extend to call a dead girl names. So Mats read the Definition Sweet, it doesnt line up,with Murder. Kirsten has nothing to do with thier problems at Miramonte or any of her friends had anything to do with it, so where is it youre all getting Kirsten and her friends ran these girls out. There is no point in making stuff up. I see why her Sisters and mom forgive her, theyre her family and family sticks by you. Im sure Kirsten had her moments and faults and good qualities as well. She is paying for it like they said in her chess pie recipe. But, it is actually based on another true story about a cheerleader in the midwest whocommitted suicide, hence the lyrics: "Yellow carnations and roses galore were sent to the mother and placed by the door in the spot where her daughter had taken her life ". Nothing exotic on the photos Ive seen. Additionally, the Bernadette character was portrayed as sweet and innocent, while a sexy twenty-something Tori Spelling played the part of the 15 year old Kirsten. She was skinny. She slaughtered the girl. Never wished Kirstens unfortunate death, she may of been misunderstood, but she never talked to me, neither did Bernadette. When Kirsten Costas was found dead, she was a popular and gorgeous cheerleader. All teen gals are (snotty) for the most part, but grow out of it. As I wrote in a previous comment to you above rupaul/joy, if there was evidence of Kirsten bullying Bernadette, she would have given examples which would have strengthened her case and possibly portrayed her as a sympathetic character. Gripping, sad, and just plain scary, A Friend to Die For premiered in September and was the highest-rated TV movie of 1994 (10 years after the actual murder.) I feel very sad for both sides. She is still recognised for the horrific crime that she committed in 1984, which was the murder of a young girl whose name was Kirsten Marina Costas. She was, says one of the judges, a perfect cheerleader.. I do believe she didnt like outcasts like Nancy and Joanna there. Giving our McDonalds name Dont prove you know them. She didnt have enemies,(that were known), just a fallout with Nancy. We didnt want to associate with them, cause we didnt want to get in trouble We got good grades and did what we were suppose to, our way of (having fun) and Choices were different than theirs. I didnt know Kirsten that well, talked to her a few times in passing but we didnt know each other. She liked mostly everybody. Youre not getting that, let Kirsten Rest In Peace. After the terrible event, Protti legally changed her name and shifted to another place to start a new family. No one is killed without a reason. Theyre not up with Morbid fascinations due to all the stuff that is going on Worldwide today. LP was a lot like Kirsten. Either way, it doesnt matter because Bernadette is a bitch, which is more important any day than looks. I disagree with you. The judgemental insecurities started there for Bernadette and everyone else that was raised in those conditions. Probably was, she allowed 2:girls to take the blame. True if no one liked you she didnt either she was nasty to some people. Kristen was adorable. Angela Delvecchio-Hall is on Facebook. Art became an executive with the 3M Corporation, and Berit stayed home, looking after the kids and the house. The whole movie seems based on stuff Bernadette said and from her point of view which is a bit unfair. I was raised to treat others with respect. I think NOT! We all moved on, every time we rehash this, it just brings up the past to that very day. Kirsten was angry for her lying to get her out under false pretenses, and she knew something was off. Although the story below was published in, Newspaper headlines from the real-life Death of a Cheerleader story: The Kirsten Costas murder (1984). With all this Corona Virus going around, none of that matters, it was 36 years ago, maybe LP or whoever moved on with her life. So Mats Bernadette was Sweet. Karen, keep repeating the same Comment over and Where are the examples of Kirsten bullying Bernadette and pushing her to her limit? Not true, I have heard from people at Miramonte in the class of 1986 saying that they dont want to be found right now due to their experience at Miramonte was not good at all. To the point that she knew she could . Karma is catching up with her, thats why she has all these haters and has to watch her back anywhere she goes. Do I think it was premeditated. Lots of teen girls are caddy and laugh at people. If you did your research, you would know that Kirsten didnt bully Bernadette. Kirstens family and Berns family were both Well off, Bern lived in a Richer part. [3] At the Costas home, Arnold, sitting in his car, saw Protti attack Costas. Teens are teens. She has a right to Privacy. Like you said, she is paying for it and has been for years. Not when she robbed a girl in the Spring of her life, and robbed her of a Family, graduating from High School, and Marrying a nice man, and whatever she planned to become in the future, Bernadette took it all from her. I can tell its you before I even read the first line. I was in the artsy and nerd group to. Bernadette was homely; Kirsten was pretty. Im embarrassed for her. Yes at times maybe she was Snippy, but were teens, who isnt! But would a real student please come forward and reveal yourself. Your lack of self awareness is both amusing and perplexing. Yes its ok to talk, but run it into the ground, it gets old after awhile. It has her sister cutting vegetables with a ridiculously long knife too, and Kirstens parents were right who cuts up vegetables with a knife that long that they keep in the car? RELATED: Heroes: How Saving The Cheerleader Saved The World (It's Not What You Think. I dont understand why you sympathize with a murderer and perpetuate lies about her murder victim under different aliases. I was a 1985 highschool graduate.i had skipped a grade so my classmates were more mature physically and socially. Regardless of what it's called, the important message is the same: bullying has a profound effect on young people and can cause them to do harm to either themselves or others.